Having a little crush on that wildie you spotted at the party last night? The thing with rave girls is, little crushes can easily evolve into virtually anything: from straight-out ghosting to life-changing love stories and everything in between.
So, what do you need to know in case you’re a newbie in a rave girls’ world? Most of it, you will inevitably learn with practice. And some of it, we will sum up to you right away.
#1 Respect her Freedom
Rave is not all about psycho outfits and weird dancing, you know. Rave culture puts a strong focus on freedom of choice, freedom of expression, and freedom of spirit. You can’t restrain this type of girl, and it would be very foolish of you to try to.
So - if you’re in, be all in. Get wild with her, get lost with her, be free with her. If you expect her to sit by the fireplace and knit woolen socks while you read yesterday’s newspaper, you better go look for a better love match somewhere else.
#2 Get to Know the Crew
Crushes, boyfriends, girlfriends, sweet love, passionate love, true love, Romeo and Juliet love, Bonnie and Clyde love, Tom and Jerry love… That’s really cool, bruh, but the crew is always a bit cooler.
For a rave girl, her inner circle of fellow party buddies is a lot like a family. They share some of their best memories, along with attitude towards life, taste in music, taste in clothing, and taste in the finer things in life. Put shortly: you better try to hang out with the cool kids, cuz else you’ll soon be history.
#3 Cherish These Outfits
For a rave babe, the festival outfits are a religion. She’ll spend lots of hours (and money) trying to find the best rave gear, and she’ll enjoy every second of the process.
There are two things to know here. First, learn to let her have her time. Sometimes, scrolling through the Devil Walking’s catalog will be more important than talking to you, and that’s okay. Second of all: never (and we mean like NEVER) make any disrespectful or rude comments about her chosen outfits. The chances she chokes you with ’em are not to be underestimated.
#4 Save Your Jealousy for Someone Else
Really, bro. We know that rave girls are hot as hell, and we know that sometimes other guys will try their chances. Anyway, you shall remain pretty cool about it cuz that’s the way to go.
Making scenes, acting like a crybaby, or trying to control and restrict her social life? We can assure you that this is nothing but your one-way ticket to oblivion.
#5 Get Ready for All the Parties… And the Afterparties
Long story short: partying is probably a huge part of her way of life, and you have two options. First, you can be a part of it and share some pretty wild memories with your girl. Or second, you can stay home and binge-watch Friends while she makes some pretty wild memories with someone else.
Also - rave parties are a big deal. You’ll have to go through the warm-up party, the main party, the afterparty… And probably a bit more partying after it. Not ready for it? You better be.
#6 A Little Cosplay Never Killed Nobody
She’s an alternative, and that’s probably why you like her. Now, embrace the thought that she's an alternative all the way around. Prepare to visit other worlds, experience different realities, watch her change faces and characters.
Because not all cosplayers are ravers, but most of the ravers are cosplayers.
Now listen. Whatever you’ve been playing on repeat lately, make up your mind to reconsider it. Her music culture is rich, borderline weird, and straight-out crazy. She will be sharing that passion with you, and you better vibe with it for the sake of your relationship.
Also - don’t you ever try to fake it. For more info on that one, go to #9.
#8 Learn to Love a Bit of Weirdness
Yes, a rave girl will sometimes be weird. And by “sometimes,” we obviously mean “most of the time.” She will read weird books, listen to weird music, watch weird movies, say weird things, act weird, dress weird, and share her weird thoughts with you… In a pretty weird way, probably.
Now, repeat that one slowly: this - weirdness - is - something - to - be - cherished. Because, come on, who needs another Ariana Grande fan in their lives?
#9 Don’t You Ever Try to Fake It!
Rave girls tend to be real to a fault. They can pick out fake deeds, fake words, and fake people like a radar - and they won’t think twice before they leave. So, try to be honest, straightforward, and authentic - they would rather appreciate a harsh truth told in the face than put up with yo pretty little bullsh*t.
Are you feeling a bit more prepared for your life-altering rave romance? Stay tuned on our blog to keep learning about rave culture and be part of it!